Stop me if you’ve heard this one before: an American friend imposes you to present them to your Latina friends. But then, when you do, they fail miserably at trying to get through the initial barriers—never mind the physical ones. So here are our six tips on how to date a Latina woman, the romancing girl.
I wish I didn’t need to point this one out, but this is where most Americans begin on the wrong foot. There is no requirement to know all the capitals of Latin America, but you should get on the Web, find where your date (or her family) is from and learn a couple indispensable facts about it.
If there’s one stereotype about Latino culture that rings true it is the one about expressing our feelings—especially when it comes to telling a woman what you like about her. Not that American females in common wouldn’t like the same—but double your efforts in this department. (Some of my female friends have admitted missing the way men check them out back home.) And yes, opening the door, carrying the weighty stuff and hailing the cab will also score you points.
#3. POP CULTURE
Latinas have two groups of pop culture in them, the mainstream American one and that of their own country—from local rhythms and bands to subcontinental references like Mafalda, García Márquez, El Chavo del Ocho and Soda Stereo. You don’t require to know these things beforehand: just be interested in learning about her favorite stuff.
#4. THE FAMILY
You’re probably going to face some Catholicism here—even if she may only be “culturally” Catholic. And this means intense family values and a probable inclination to guilt (which we Latino men exhibit, too). The point here: Latinas hate disappointing or offending those who gave rise to her. Don’t try to change it. Just don’t. (And avoid complaining about your own mother, too.)
You can perfectly skip the cliché of taking salsa lessons to date a Latina, but you won’t get very far in the love-making if you don’t make the effort of hitting the dance floor. If you fail at this, somebody else will dance with her, and she’ll soon be gone for good.
Many Latinos come from cities where people feel like they all know each other, and trade gossip. So she may be hesitant to do anything out of the common when people are watching. Respect that, and know when to offer a way out of the spotlight of a large group. She’ll thank you for that.